The Conscious Love Show

You don’t want a relationship, you want an expanded experience of yourself...

The desire to love and be loved is one of the most universal human experiences and, at it's core, it is a very good thing.  But in our chaotic world, where so many of us struggle with worthiness, and we carry these heavy wounds from our past, this pure and beautiful desire has been distorted into a craving that reinforces our lack of worth and disconnects us from love rather than bringing us closer to it. 
We imagine that the right person will make everything better but this is a trick of the ego and not true.  When we bring our wounding to relationships, those relationships can only reflect those wounds.  It's not really a relationship you seek, it is a feeling of being worthy, lovable, alive, and passionate and when you feel like this, love is never far away. 
The goal is not to find someone to make you feel better, it is to learn to live fully alive and embodying a state of love.  In that state, everything you're looking for will find you.
I hope you enjoy this profound and powerful episode.   
 
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The Most Essential Transformation Needed to Create True Love

Whenever I have a client or a program graduate who is highly successful in their life and love, I always like to ask what it was that made the difference for them.
I always want to find out, what was the actual shift that you needed to have to experience the results you've created?  And over the years, I've noticed a very clear pattern.  In fact, every single one of them give me some variation of the same answer and I know exactly what that answer is because it's the same thing that happened for me.  If it wasn't for this one shift in how I felt about myself, I never would have had my wife fall in love with me because I just wouldn't have been ready for a woman like her.
Want to know what it is, or even better, has it happened for you yet?  Well I'm not gonna give it to you that easily but in this episode, I'm going to tell you exactly what that shift is and break down the detailed steps to creating this shift in yourself.
 
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Generational Trauma and navigating the world we’ve inherited

Trauma goes deeper than most people think.  Because even if you came from a good home and a good family, you were born into a traumatic world.  We've inherited a world of trauma, a world with a history steeped in war, conflict, and survival of the fittest and when we experienced this world as helpless, innocent children, it was deeply hurtful to us and we built big walls of protection around ourselves.
Modern dating culture is a side effect of this generational trauma and what we experience in dating is the result of millions of traumatized people, most of them not even aware of their need for healing, desperately trying to feel better and feel more love while simultaneously being terrified of intimacy.  This is an impossible situation and it's lead to a divorce rate above 70% and millions struggling with self-worth and loneliness.     
In this powerful episode, I share how to navigate this impossible situation.  I speak about being a beacon of light in a world of darkness and how you can embody love to such a powerful degree that you can inspire someone else to let their walls down, where an authentic connection can take place, and love can be born.  Enjoy! 
 
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What is Healing and Why is it Important?

Have you ever felt that no matter how hard you try to improve your love life you still hit a wall?  Like no matter what you do or what you say or how hard you try, you are still going to get the same results and there's nothing you can do about it.
This is the experience that many of my clients are feeling when they come to me and please know that I've been there and I know exactly what that feels like.  And in the many years I've been doing this work, I come back to it time and time again that anywhere we feel blocked or stuck, we are experiencing a past trauma that we are unable to move forward from, and it is limiting our future.
Most people think if they just try a little harder or do it a little better or a little differently they can solve all of their problems but I promise you, this idea is a fallacy.  When we are blocked by traumas that are held in our body and subconscious mind, there is no amount of just trying harder or doing better that will solve it. We must go to the root of the problem and work with those painful elements that lie in the most vulnerable parts of our being, and that is where we will heal and transform.
In this episode, I'm taking an in-depth look at what healing work looks like and why it's necessary. I'm pulling back the curtain on things that most people don't talk about and really looking at how our fears and traumas sabotage our dreams. This is a deeply transformational episode, and it was really fun to make so I hope you enjoy it!  More than that, I hope that you find a deep commitment to your own healing work, because that is where everything want to experience in life is waiting for you.
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The Amazing Energy that Men ALWAYS Respond to...

As a follow up to last week's episode, I wanted to speak into what actually works! 
Last week I shared how not to chase a man, how to maintain proper power dynamics, and how to give him space to prove himself to you and while this was all SUPER important, I couldn't help but feel that something was missing.  I told you a lot about what NOT to do but not so much about what you should do.
Truth is, it takes more than keeping a high standard.  A high standard with harsh/critical energy will make a man feel defeated and unworthy.  But a high standard with tenderness, warmth, and nurturing will make a man feel like superman, and if you want a man to fall in love, you want him to feel like superman with you. 
In this episode, I complete the conversation by sharing the amazing energy that men ALWAYS respond to and by bringing this energy to him, you will have him responding to you!      

Never Chase a Man: Managing the surprising power dynamics in early dating

In today's episode we explore the one simple rule: Never Chase a Man. 
Easier said than done of course, especially when men can be so avoidant and it would be so easy to just give a nudge in the right direction and get things moving.  Still, when you take the lead and start trying to push the relationship forward, you are causing him to lose attraction and never be able to see you as the women he wants a lifetime commitment with.  In this episode, I share how he needs to see you and think of you to be ready for real commitment and I guide you in the personal growth steps you need to take to be ready to receive the man who will pursue you like you always dreamed someone would.   

Projection Makes Perception: How we see ourselves is how we see the world

In this episode, I'm speaking into an idea that comes from A Course in Miracles: Projection Makes Perception
In this one idea lies both our greatest strength and our greatest weakness.  This is the power we have to create a life unimagined!  To transcend our current reality and experience a life far beyond anything we previously thought was possible.  To create deep love, infinite abundance, immense joy, and the freedom to be and do what is truly in our hearts.
This idea also contains our ability to never realize any of this--to maintain our current experience of life and repeat and recreate these experiences over and over again.  All of this is within your power and in this episode, I'm sharing how to direct your power to the places that will be most rewarding and most fulfilling in your life.    

How to Leverage your Spiritual Power to Manifest Love

In today's episode, we look at the principles of manifestation and what is required from us to truly manifest a loving partnership in our lives.  We look at why manifestation doesn't work and what prevents people from being able to access this power and explore the true process of manifestation and how to implement it in our lives.  I also share specific practices that you can use to move out of fear and into love which is the foundation for being able to manifest more love and loving experiences in your life.    

I Want What’s best For You: the ultimate relationship mindset

In this episode, we explore how the mindset of wanting what's best for the other person makes you most receptive, available, and attractive for love.  We discuss how to remain empowered while wanting the best for someone else and how that enables you to get what's best for you also.  Includes an interesting discussion about men being overly sexual in early stages of dating in the Q and A section.  

Why Men Disappear, Ghost, and Stop Calling (the REAL answer)

In this podcast episode, I'm addressing the #1 most commonly asked question I get from my listeners: "Where the hell did he go?" 
Sometimes it's only after a first date and you never hear from him again.  Other times, after several weeks of great connection, he out of nowhere decides he's done and conveniently forgets to inform you of this.  You call, you text, and no answer.  He's gone. 
A particularly frustrating one is after a session of passionate love making, you feel that you've really made a deep and lasting connection but the next day, he acts like it never happened or worse, doesn't act like anything because you never see him again.
And those guys who have the audacity to call 3 months later and try to catch up like everything is good (eyeroll).
Yes, there is no more infuriating and despicable male behavior than the way they disappear without a word, without even enough care to acknowledge the time you've spent.  I've heard your pain and your heart in your questions and in this episode I'm going to share some things that will help.  Why men do this, what causes them to do it, and what you can do about it.  Enjoy, and may the men in your life always call you back.