The Conscious Love Show

Releasing the Need to Be Chosen and Learning to Choose Conscious Love

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In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional wounds that shape our need to be chosen in relationships. Whether it’s from childhood abandonment, rejection, or feeling unworthy, many of us carry unresolved pain that drives us to seek validation through being selected by a partner. This unconscious desire to be chosen often leads to unhealthy dynamics, where we sacrifice our needs or stay in unfulfilling relationships out of fear of rejection or being alone.
We’ll explore how these early wounds, often tied to mother or father wounds, create a cycle of approval-seeking behavior. Instead of choosing relationships based on mutual respect, growth, and shared values, we end up prioritizing external validation. This need to be chosen reinforces the idea that love is something earned, rather than something we consciously choose and co-create.
Through healing these core wounds and embracing self-worth, we can begin to reclaim our power in relationships. We’ll discuss how developing self-awareness and practicing self-love allows us to let go of the need for external approval and make intentional, conscious choices in love. By choosing from a place of wholeness and authenticity, we can attract healthier, more balanced relationships that nurture personal growth and connection.

Meeting the Needs of the Masculine and Feminine in Partnership

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Most women say they want to experience a strong masculine presence from their man and most men say they want to experience the warm, gentle feminine presence from their woman, yet we struggle so much to receive this from each other. 
In dating, many women feel that it's almost impossible to have men step up and bring the strength and security they seek from the masculine while men feel that women are too protective and guarded, limiting the warmth of the feminine.
In our long term relationships this dynamic becomes even worse.  We get caught up in the doingness of life, the sexual polarity between us dies and resentment builds as we feel our deepest relational needs are not being met. 
However, by simply understanding the core needs of the masculine and feminine and knowing how to meet them, we can inspired this presence from our partners and the people we date.
Men become more masculine when their core masculine needs are being met and the same is true for women.  It's simply when this part of ourselves is not protected and validated that we lose touch with it and as we learn to do that for others, we invite them to do the same for us.     
 
 
 

Learning to Rely On Miracles

Most of us want more from our lives and relationships.  We want to experience more magic, passion, and vitality.  
And while we are craving for more, we are often living in a state of mind and body that feels jaded, heavy, disconnected and alone.
The pain that we've experienced in the past paints a bleak picture of the future and while, on some level, we hope to have a life that reflects our dreams one day, filled with passionate love and deep connection, that vision often feels far away and we struggle to believe in it.
Yet miracles are possible and everything can change in an instant but first, we must create the space in our lives to allow them in. 
This episode tells you exactly how to do that.  Enjoy :) 

The True Nature of Love

This episode invites you to explore the profound difference between love that is authentically expressed and the fear-based behaviors that often masquerade as love in relationships.
We dive deep into what genuine love looks like—how it nurtures, heals, and strengthens the bonds between partners. Conversely, we examine the manipulative tactics and survival strategies that arise from fear and insecurity, leading to power struggles and disconnection.
This episode is a journey toward understanding how to cultivate relationships based on true connection, trust, and mutual respect, moving beyond the patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of emotional turmoil. Tune in to discover how to transform your relationships by embracing the true nature of love.
And thanks for listening. 

Trauma Responses: Why we attract unfulfilling love

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If you've experienced patterns of unfulfilling love in your life, this episode will offer you some important insight. 
When we are looking for love, we are often tuning into subtle cues that reflect our past pain.  Believe it or not, this is often what generates our attraction to people.
Sometimes, we are not seeking fulfilling love but rather we are seeking someone with whom we can play out these past patterns, someone who will create in us the familiar feelings of loss or longing that we've known throughout our lives. 
Unconsciously, we associate these feelings with love and when we meet someone who doesn't create these feelings in us, the resulting experience is a lack of attraction or interest.
In this episode, I'm explaining the subconscious dynamics of how this operates and sharing practical steps you can take to heal this.
Thanks for listening, lots of love,
Shane 

A Man's Journey to Commitment

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If you've been feeling like there aren't a lot of commitment-ready men out there, I hear you.
Men crave connection and they want commitment just as much as women do but they have a very different process of getting there. 
While women have often been encouraged to seek relationship and commitment from a very young age, men have often been encouraged to do the exact opposite and when they've expressed their sensitivity and need for love it's often been regarded as weakness and met with ridicule.
Still, the raw need for connection lives within every man and when a woman can create a safe space for him to express this vulnerable need, he will often fall in love and commit to her for life.
In this episode, I'm sharing how to do that.
I hope you enjoy it, and thanks for listening.       

Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energies, Polarity, and their Toxic Aspects

Understanding polarity is a profound conversation that gives us insight into attraction, sexuality, intimacy, and how relationships can develop in healthy ways and also toxic ways.
The polarity of masculine and feminine energy is at the core of how we relate with each other, it drives our attractions, it informs our highest actions and also our lowest impulses. 
I hope you enjoy this episode and that it helps you understand how to attract the ideal partnership you're seeking, deepen the intimacy in your existing relationship, and foster the highest good for all your relationships.  

Suppression of Feminine Power and Awakening the Divine Feminine

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Feminine power is an uncomfortable thing in our world.  Women are afraid to use it because of the intense backlash they get when they do and men are afraid to experience it because it shines a light on their unconscious insecurities.  Yet, conscious love can only be experienced in a relationship where the feminine power is expressed and honored by both partners.  This means there is healing that needs to happen for both men and women. 
 
This episode will reveal the journey to healing for all people and show women how to embody more of their feminine power and men to heal in the presence of it. 

How to Make Deeper Connections in Love and Dating

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Connection is a fundamental human need and we are in a crisis of it!  Most of us struggle to feel deeply connected and most of our relationships are surface level and don't meet our deepest needs. 
In dating, we struggle to bridge the gap and feel genuinely connected to the people we date and many of us in long term relationships feel completely disconnected from our partners. 
We struggle to feel seen, heard, understood and truly known by the people we love most, by the people we need to be most connected to.
This episode will give you clear guidance on how to bridge the gap and make deeper connections in the dating world and beyond.

What is a Conscious Relationship (and how to create one)

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What is a conscious relationship and what makes it different from any other relationship?  
Today is Fatima and I's four year wedding anniversary, going on 8 years together, and we've learned a lot about this topic through our various adventures and challenges! 
In this episode, I'm sharing our story of creating and sustaining the conscious love we have today.  The good, the bad and the ugly! 
Whether you are single or in a relationship, your journey to conscious love starts right now!  There is never a time when you are not creating it and this episode is going to give you the clearest representation of that journey that I've ever recorded.
I had a lot of fun putting this one together and I hope you can share some laughs and some feels as you hear the story.
Much Love <3 
Shane