The Conscious Love Show

How to Heal the Subconscious Attraction to Avoidant Men

Why are so many women drawn to the very kind of men who leave her feeling unseen, unsettled, and unsatisfied?
She knows he’s pulling away.
She knows it’s costing her peace.
And yet—something inside her keeps reaching for him.
 
In this episode, we go into the hidden magnet behind that attraction. Not in the way you’ve heard a hundred times before, but in a way that could shift how you see yourself, men, and love—forever.
 
This isn’t about blame. It’s about freedom. By the end of this episode, you'll learn how to break the addiction and magnetize him back toward you.
Whether you still want him or not, you'll be choosing now. 

The Spiritual Nature of Attachment

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We all know the ache of attachment—the deep longing for connection, the fear of losing it, the emptiness that follows when it slips away.
But what if there’s more to it than just childhood wounds or relationship patterns?
What if attachment itself is pointing to something far deeper?
 
In this episode, I take you beneath the surface of human love and longing to explore the hidden root of why we crave so much, hurt so deeply, and search so endlessly.
 
It may not be what you expect.
And if you’re open, it could change the way you see love forever.

Shane's Diary Entry #2: Spiritual Narcissism, Toxic Positivity, and Learning to Embrace the Shadow

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I'm back with my second diary entry.
In this episode I share about my journey of living with a repressed shadow and how I learned to integrate it in a healthy way. From the extreme religious repression of my mother to the unchecked ego of my father, I share how I internalized the idea that I was unworthy of God's love from a young age.
I was broken open by my experiences through jail, addiction, career failure, and my wife's cancer journey to finally love all of myself and heal the internal self-hatred that had created chaos and conflict in my life around me. 
The full story inside. Happy listening!

“How could you leave me?” Why Love Would Never Ask This Question…

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It’s one of the deepest cries of the human heart: “How could you leave me?”
We’ve all felt it—the shock, the grief, the ache of not being chosen.
 
But here’s the truth most people never consider: real love would never ask that question.
 
In this episode, I’m pulling apart the difference between the ego’s demand to hold on and love’s willingness to set free. We’ll look at why clinging to someone who doesn’t want to stay drains your energy, and how releasing them might be the doorway to the love that does want you.
 
This isn’t about denying the pain. It’s about discovering the freedom on the other side of it.

A Woman's Greatest Wound: The Need to Be Chosen

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It’s almost universal.
The wound of needing to be chosen runs deep in the hearts of women everywhere—showing up in ways most don’t even realize.
 
In this episode, we break it down.
Why this wound exists.
Where it begins.
How it silently shapes the way you love, trust, and show up in relationships.
 
And most importantly—we’ll talk about what it takes to finally free yourself from it.
 
This isn’t about pointing fingers or shaming your story. It’s about naming the truth that’s been holding you back… and stepping into the freedom that’s been yours all along.

The Truth About Men in 2025

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You’ve heard the story: women are evolving, men are falling behind.
But what if that’s not the whole truth?
 
In this episode, I open a conversation most people aren’t willing to have—one that might challenge everything you’ve been told about men, love, and the real reasons relationships feel so out of balance today.
It’s not a defense. It’s not an attack.
It’s an invitation.
 
To listen deeper.
To see what you’ve been missing.
And maybe, to change the way you see the men in your life—forever.

Shane's Diary; Entry #1: Reflections on becoming a father, relationship to my parents, addiction, and love

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I'm officially a father to a beautiful little girl and as I step into this new chapter of my life, I wanted to add something new to the podcast.
Once monthly, I'm going to do a Shane's Diary episode where I take a pause from the regular content and share personal reflections, stories and insights from my journey to let you get to know the man behind the message and give you glimpses into how I embody the work in my personal life and witness my own process of  evolution.
In this episode, I talk about crossing the threshold into fatherhood, my thoughts on raising a girl, my relationship to my own parents, trauma, addiction, jail time, and the journey I've taken to be ready to nurture a soul in her human experience.
Thank you for listening and I hope you enjoy this peek behind the curtain. 

Beyond Charm and Chemistry: Attracting a Partner Who is Truly Emotionally Available

Why do we get so swept up by charm and chemistry, only to find ourselves in relationships that lack true emotional depth? In this episode of The Conscious Love Show, we explore the magnetic pull of initial attraction and why it often leads us into patterns with emotionally unavailable partners.
You’ll learn what emotional availability really looks like, why we unconsciously gravitate toward avoidance or inconsistency, and how to break the cycle. Together, we’ll uncover the deeper connection between self-worth and the types of partners we attract—and how healing our inner patterns can transform our love lives.
We’ll also dive into practical strategies for recognizing emotionally available partners and redefining what chemistry means in a way that aligns with your long-term goals for love. If you’re ready to move beyond the surface and attract a partner who shows up with kindness, consistency, and vulnerability, this episode is for you!

Choosing the Right Partner Part 2: Individual Aspects of Compatibility

In this week's episode we explore choosing the right partner, not in a way that applies to everyone, but in a way that applies to you personally.  This episode is a deep dive into exploring your own values, needs, and desires, in a relationship.  What are the things that are truly non-negotiable for you?  And what can you be flexible about?  The answers might surprise you!  
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QUESTION - What to Do When He Goes Dark for Days?

In today’s episode of The Conscious Love Show, we tackle a frustrating relationship dynamic: What to do when he goes dark for days? If you’ve ever experienced the emotional rollercoaster of being left in the dark, unsure of where you stand with someone, this episode will offer the clarity and guidance you need.
We’ll explore the reasons why someone might pull away, the signs of emotional unavailability, and how to protect your own emotional well-being in these situations. I’ll also share how to set boundaries, communicate your needs, and decide whether to invest further in the relationship or move on. If you’ve been feeling uncertain about how to respond when he goes quiet, this episode will help you navigate the situation with confidence and self-respect.