The Conscious Love Show

Wy Anxious Women Push Love Away

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You say you want deep love—but you keep chasing men who can’t give it.
You overthink, overgive, and anxiously wait for crumbs… but real intimacy? That scares you.
What if your anxious attachment isn’t about needing too much—but about avoiding the intimacy of being truly seen? In this episode, we'll reveal the hidden avoidance behind anxious behavior—and why the chase feels safer than actually being chosen. 

Attraction vs. Addiction: Are You Drawn to Wounding or Love?

We may feel that we're following our heart, when in reality, we’re following our trauma.
In this episode, we explore the seductive pull of the trauma bond — how it masquerades as chemistry, intensity, and “meant to be,” but is often rooted in pain from the past.
Learn how to tell the difference between true love and addictive attraction, and how to break free from the cycles that keep you chasing wounding instead of receiving love.

QUESTION- How to Challenge Him

In this episode of The Conscious Love Show, we explore a powerful question: How to challenge him? Whether you’re in a romantic relationship or seeking deeper connections in your life, challenging your partner or someone you care about can be an important way to foster growth, communication, and mutual respect.
I’ll share strategies for how to challenge your partner in ways that encourage positive change without creating conflict. You’ll learn how to ask thought-provoking questions, set healthy boundaries, and engage in conversations that inspire growth and vulnerability. If you're looking to elevate the dynamic in your relationship and encourage him to step into his best self, this episode will provide practical tools for doing so with love and empathy.

How Do I Finally Let Go when a Relationship is Breaking Me?

You know it’s breaking you. And yet… you can’t seem to let go.
The hope, the history, the moments of sweetness—they keep pulling you back in, even when you know it’s costing you your peace. This episode is for anyone caught in that painful in-between: holding on, knowing you need to walk away, but feeling paralyzed by love, fear, and hope.
Through this heartfelt discussion, I'll reveal why knowing you should leave isn't enough to be able to do so, what staying is really costing you, the hidden reasons why we stay, and the true path to finding the courage to leave. Plus, we'll go over a step by step guide to prepare yourself to make the decision, go through with it, and nurture your heart afterward. 
I know this is one of the most challenging things you'll ever do, and I'm here to go through it with you. 

QUESTION- How to Tell if Someone is Avoidant or Secure

In today’s episode of The Conscious Love Show, we’re breaking down a key relationship question: How to tell if someone is avoidant or secure? If you’ve ever wondered whether your partner’s behavior is a sign of emotional distance or just a different attachment style, this episode will provide the clarity you need.
I’ll explain the key traits of avoidant and secure attachment styles, how they show up in relationships, and the subtle differences you can look for. We’ll also discuss how to navigate these attachment styles in your own relationships, whether you’re trying to understand a partner or simply gain a deeper understanding of your own behavior. Tune in for valuable insights that will help you build healthier, more connected relationships based on emotional awareness and understanding.

Stop Waiting for a Commitment; It’s Lowering Your Value

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You think waiting patiently for a commitment shows loyalty and love—but it’s actually lowering your value. In fact, high-value people always ask for what they want and it is impossible to communicate your value without speaking about your most heartfelt desires and calling someone to the plate. In this episode I'll explain why. 
 
Here, we’ll unpack why waiting in fear of not being chosen creates the very outcome you’re trying to avoid. You don’t wait for commitment, you create the conditions for it by asserting what you want—and being willing to walk away if it’s not met. If you’ve ever felt stuck in limbo, this is your wake-up call.

QUESTION - How to Use Discernment When Anxiety is High

In today’s episode of The Conscious Love Show, we tackle a crucial topic: How to use discernment when anxiety is high. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by anxiety and struggled to make clear decisions, this episode is for you.
I’ll guide you through the process of tuning into your inner wisdom, even when your mind feels clouded by worry and uncertainty. We’ll explore practical strategies to separate anxious thoughts from your true feelings, how to trust yourself in moments of high tension, and ways to ground your decision-making. Whether it’s in relationships, work, or other areas of life, this episode will help you develop the clarity and confidence to make empowered choices, even when anxiety tries to take the lead.

Transform Anxious Attachment into a Secure Fulfilling Relationship with Trevor Hanson

I really enjoyed this powerful interview with Trevor and I hope you did too! If you'd like to connect with him, you can find ways to do that below: 
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QUESTION - Should I Prioritize Sex or Emotional Connection?

In this episode of The Conscious Love Show, we explore a common relationship dilemma: Should I prioritize sex or emotional connection? If you’ve ever felt torn between physical intimacy and emotional closeness, this episode is here to help you navigate that decision with clarity and confidence.
I’ll dive into the importance of both sex and emotional connection in a healthy relationship and how they complement each other. We’ll discuss how to recognize what you need at different stages in your relationship, how to communicate those needs effectively, and how to find balance in both areas. Whether you’re seeking deeper emotional intimacy or exploring the role of physical connection, this episode will give you the tools to honor both aspects and create a more fulfilling, connected partnership.

He Likes You but He Doesn't Love You Enough to Choose You...

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You feel the connection. He says he cares. But when it comes to stepping up, he hesitates. Why?In this episode, I'm breaking down the 5 types of men who will ALWAYS avoid commitment and the 4 reasons that women tolerate this. If you've ever encountered one of these men or been one of these women, this episode will tell you exactly what you need to do next. 
Tune in and learn how to shift from being an option to being the only choice.