The Conscious Love Show

Dating Fatigue: How to Keep Hope Alive After Repeated Disappointments

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If you’re feeling exhausted by the idea of starting over, navigating the dating pool, or investing in relationships only to face uncertainty or pain, you’re not alone.
In this episode, we explore how romantic setbacks can leave you questioning whether it’s worth it and offer practical insights on how to stay open to love without compromising your healing or peace of mind. Join me as we discuss strategies for overcoming emotional exhaustion, setting new relationship standards, and reigniting joy and vitality within yourself, regardless of relationship outcomes.

Healing Heartbreak and Becoming More Secure than Before

In this powerful episode of The Conscious Love Show, we dive deep into the journey of healing after heartbreak. Whether you’re reeling from a recent breakup or still processing old wounds, this conversation offers insight into how to move through the pain and emerge even stronger. Shane Kohler explores the emotional process of letting go, the hidden growth opportunities within heartbreak, and the essential steps to build a more secure, empowered sense of self.
You’ll learn how heartbreak can become a catalyst for profound personal transformation—pushing you to cultivate a deeper sense of self-worth, security, and resilience. Shane also shares strategies to stop seeking external validation, so you can create space for authentic love to enter your life. Tune in for a heart-centered, compassionate dialogue designed to help you heal, grow, and step into the next chapter with confidence.
If you’re ready to turn your pain into power, this episode is for you.

Healing the Wounds Created by the Masculine

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In this powerful episode of The Conscious Love Show, we’re diving deep into a topic that touches so many women on a personal level—healing the wounds created by the unhealthy masculine. Throughout history and personal experience, women have often been left carrying emotional scars from unhealthy masculine energy, whether it stems from family, romantic relationships, or societal conditioning.
While there are countless good men out there, these unhealed wounds can keep you stuck in patterns of mistrust, fear, or disconnection, making it hard to recognize and be open to healthy male energy when you encounter it. But healing is possible.
Join me as I guide you through a step-by-step exploration of how to begin healing these wounds. We’ll discuss how past experiences with unhealthy masculinity affect your current relationships, and I’ll share tools and insights on how to reclaim your sense of safety, trust, and worth. This is about stepping into a place of empowerment, where you’re able to recognize and attract the kind of love you truly deserve.
Don’t miss this essential conversation—tune in and start your journey toward healing, wholeness, and conscious love.

The Essential Qualities of a Conscious Woman

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In this episode we explore the attributes that define a woman who is deeply attuned to her personal growth, emotional intelligence, and authentic self-expression.
Drawing from universal spiritual principles and  practical experience, we outline the key characteristics that enable a woman to cultivate meaningful connections and embody true love. From self-awareness and vulnerability to emotional resilience and compassion, we discuss how these traits not only enhance her relationship with others but also deepen her relationship with herself.
Whether you’re single and seeking love or in a committed relationship, this episode serves as an empowering guide for women who want to elevate their consciousness and foster deeper, more fulfilling partnerships and men who are seeking a conscious partner. 

The Essential Qualities of a Conscious Man

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Let's dive deep into the essential qualities that define a conscious man.
In this episode, we explore the attributes that empower men to build authentic connections, embrace vulnerability, and foster healthy relationships. 
We're clearly defining the qualities that not only enhance personal growth but also contribute to more fulfilling partnerships. Whether you’re a man looking to bring forth your highest self or a woman seeking a conscious partner, this episode is packed with insights to inspire deeper connection and growth.
Join in on this riveting discussion about what it means to truly embody conscious masculinity!

Releasing the Need to Be Chosen and Learning to Choose Conscious Love

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In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional wounds that shape our need to be chosen in relationships. Whether it’s from childhood abandonment, rejection, or feeling unworthy, many of us carry unresolved pain that drives us to seek validation through being selected by a partner. This unconscious desire to be chosen often leads to unhealthy dynamics, where we sacrifice our needs or stay in unfulfilling relationships out of fear of rejection or being alone.
We’ll explore how these early wounds, often tied to mother or father wounds, create a cycle of approval-seeking behavior. Instead of choosing relationships based on mutual respect, growth, and shared values, we end up prioritizing external validation. This need to be chosen reinforces the idea that love is something earned, rather than something we consciously choose and co-create.
Through healing these core wounds and embracing self-worth, we can begin to reclaim our power in relationships. We’ll discuss how developing self-awareness and practicing self-love allows us to let go of the need for external approval and make intentional, conscious choices in love. By choosing from a place of wholeness and authenticity, we can attract healthier, more balanced relationships that nurture personal growth and connection.

Meeting the Needs of the Masculine and Feminine in Partnership

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Most women say they want to experience a strong masculine presence from their man and most men say they want to experience the warm, gentle feminine presence from their woman, yet we struggle so much to receive this from each other. 
In dating, many women feel that it's almost impossible to have men step up and bring the strength and security they seek from the masculine while men feel that women are too protective and guarded, limiting the warmth of the feminine.
In our long term relationships this dynamic becomes even worse.  We get caught up in the doingness of life, the sexual polarity between us dies and resentment builds as we feel our deepest relational needs are not being met. 
However, by simply understanding the core needs of the masculine and feminine and knowing how to meet them, we can inspired this presence from our partners and the people we date.
Men become more masculine when their core masculine needs are being met and the same is true for women.  It's simply when this part of ourselves is not protected and validated that we lose touch with it and as we learn to do that for others, we invite them to do the same for us.     
 
 
 

Learning to Rely On Miracles

Most of us want more from our lives and relationships.  We want to experience more magic, passion, and vitality.  
And while we are craving for more, we are often living in a state of mind and body that feels jaded, heavy, disconnected and alone.
The pain that we've experienced in the past paints a bleak picture of the future and while, on some level, we hope to have a life that reflects our dreams one day, filled with passionate love and deep connection, that vision often feels far away and we struggle to believe in it.
Yet miracles are possible and everything can change in an instant but first, we must create the space in our lives to allow them in. 
This episode tells you exactly how to do that.  Enjoy :) 

The True Nature of Love

This episode invites you to explore the profound difference between love that is authentically expressed and the fear-based behaviors that often masquerade as love in relationships.
We dive deep into what genuine love looks like—how it nurtures, heals, and strengthens the bonds between partners. Conversely, we examine the manipulative tactics and survival strategies that arise from fear and insecurity, leading to power struggles and disconnection.
This episode is a journey toward understanding how to cultivate relationships based on true connection, trust, and mutual respect, moving beyond the patterns that keep us stuck in cycles of emotional turmoil. Tune in to discover how to transform your relationships by embracing the true nature of love.
And thanks for listening. 

Trauma Responses: Why we attract unfulfilling love

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If you've experienced patterns of unfulfilling love in your life, this episode will offer you some important insight. 
When we are looking for love, we are often tuning into subtle cues that reflect our past pain.  Believe it or not, this is often what generates our attraction to people.
Sometimes, we are not seeking fulfilling love but rather we are seeking someone with whom we can play out these past patterns, someone who will create in us the familiar feelings of loss or longing that we've known throughout our lives. 
Unconsciously, we associate these feelings with love and when we meet someone who doesn't create these feelings in us, the resulting experience is a lack of attraction or interest.
In this episode, I'm explaining the subconscious dynamics of how this operates and sharing practical steps you can take to heal this.
Thanks for listening, lots of love,
Shane